The past 2 weeks have been very positive. I took my W on a very spontaneous trip to Miami. Very romantic and lots of fun. She is spending some nights downstairs with me and some nights upstairs in her apartment but she no longer locks the door. We spend lots of time together. We have engaged in small doses of OR talk. We both agree that the progress is wonderful. She has finally agreed to joint counseling. She is starting to feel comfortable that the changes are for real, although she has said that her uncertainty is still there.
I have been giving her no pressure to move back downstairs, although I let her know in no uncertain terms that we all want her back home. I think that the fact that I gave her the space to retreat when she wanted to, allowed her to feel more comfortable being with me. This space is allowing her to return at a pace that makes her comfortable. And every day she is becoming more and more my loving W again.
