I think that you may be off the mark here. I’ve asked her to stay and face the problems, not to move out. When that was seen as controlling, I have backed off and don’t even talk about the move. I am working now on preparing myself to act positively on the day of her move next week.
I don’t know if I should help her or just disappear for the day. We still need to discuss the ground rules.
Last night I took a half sleeping pill so that I would be out when she got home from work because lately, I’ve been waking up, kissing her goodnight and putting my arm around her before going back to sleep. I didn’t see anything positive coming out of it so I decided to be asleep when she got home. This morning I brought her breakfast in bed, where we hung out for a while and read the newspaper together. The only physical contact was a little kiss on the forehead that I gave her. No touching, handholding etc.
I think that she may be trying, but trying to fix herself before trying to fix OR. I would be more in favor of doing both at the same time , but patience is the key here. Not one of my strong qualities.
