Ughh John, I know what your going through. I let my ex know I was there, actually in a way supported her activities with om. Found receipts she had lunch with him and was riding in the car I was paying for with him and when I confronted her was told that he was a friend, blah,blah. All the while I was eating crap and supporting her ways. Oh, she was nice John. Would put her feet on me and let me rub them. Would eat dinner with the boys and me and go out with us. But after another incident I put my foot down and told her if she wants to be with om, then I will let him support her and she had no obligation anymore to me and the kids. Thats when the real woman came out. Selfish and cruel. She was incensed that I had the nerve to tell her how it would be when she had om who wanted her and understood her and was there for her. The more I took away, the more like an angry child she became. Never looking at her own actions that caused me to do so but blaming me as being an a-hole and alot worse. It most likely cost me my marriage but it finally let me grow my backbone back and take control of my life. How much longer could I live like that? I just wish I had done it earlier because really it was my fault I let the monster get so big. My old man when I was little threw my mom out and told her to come back when she got her head on straight. She came back. Go figure.. Ron
