Friend I've been thinking a lot about your thread.
I was so happy to see that someone seemed to be reconciling with their h after such a long time.
I wish that I could do the same thing.
I'm really not surprised to hear how difficult you are finding it.
I read somewhere that the reason more second marriages fail is because the person has been through a divorce before and survived it. They know how scared they were before yet they coped. Second time around it's just not so scary.
For us LBS's we too were scared. We didn't know how we would cope on our own. But we do. We survived. You know that you can cope on your own. You know that you can survive. And you know that you can be happy.
Now we choose to be single.
Good luck. I so hope everything works out well for you and your h.
