John, It's kind of a "catch 22" isn't it? She won't feel more emotionally connected to you until she lets you in and she won't let you in unti she feels more emotionally connected.
I can relate to the beard issue. H shaved off his moustache. He didn't have it when we met, but grew it soon after. He's shaved it off very briefly twice before and just shaved it off for good around Thanksgiving. He just is not as appealing to me. Of couse part of it is that I know he did it as a slap in the face to me.
You are competing with W's unrealistic picture of OM. As long as she is still hanging on to that, I think you are going to have trouble.
I would listen to OR issues that W has without analysing them too much. I think maybe if I was in your W's shoes I would see your diagnosis of MLC or hormone problems, depression, etc. as patronizing. Obviously, you are probably right on the mark, but that doesn't fit your W's thinking right now. I think you did a nice job in telling her that you wouldn't try and stop her leaving if her feelings for you didn't come back. I'm sure that is a big concern of hers right now.
I am so sorry that you are having such a hard time right now! ((((John)))) Hang in there! I think things will improve.
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