The point that you make about her mess that she is running from is true. We talked this morning and she told me how much better she was starting to feel when she had it in her head that she would be moving into the apartment. So I let go. We told the kids together and it came off positive.
I’ve been talking with my daughter every day about mending her friendship with mom. This will take time too.
I was beginning to find a peace when W moved out and I was at home with the kids. When W moved back, there was tension in the house again because I knew that she didn’t want to be here. When she finally said that she wanted the family again, I let down my guard. Therein lies a mistake. I started acting very loving and attentive. That worked for a couple of days and then she started to distance. I couldn’t figure out why. She was feeling very lonely and that’s when she started to turn around. When I cushioned the fall from her loneliness I started to lose ground.
I had finally felt detached. When she moved back, I attached again.
She can have all of the time that she needs right now. I really want to take the pressure off of her so that she can combat her demons and return to the planet. I just want to be her best friend and she is still seeing me as part of the problem.
