I think that there are some similarities between our stories. I wasn’t too happy when W moved out of apartment w/ OM and back home because I knew that she hadn’t broken up w/ OM at the time. In other words, she really didn’t want to be home, a lawyer advised her that she would have custody issues if she didn’t move back. I was thrilled, however, when she came to us a couple of weeks later and said that she broke up w/ OM and wanted to try as a family again.
If she stays away from OM, continues with therapy, and I can muster up the strength for some more Dbing, there may be a chance for us. If she lets me know what my limits are, I will honor them. I was just so excited that she was back that I just tried too hard to make her feel welcomed. I am so anxious to resolve our issues even though I know in my heart that it is going to take time.
Her relationship w/ 12 yr old D is very strained and W is trying to blame me for turning the kids against her. I have stopped arguing with her over this issue. They were great friends before the abduction. I hope that they can fix their friendship.
When W told me this morning that she wanted to leave again, my stomach knotted. I think that I have it under control now.
Rayanne,
I don’t think that it will be an OR talk. I just want her to establish the boundaries so I know what the limits are. She did give me a kiss when she left for work tonight. Not a bad thing.
