Thanks guys. That's a little difficult to understand. My daughter feels that if her mom doesn't talk about it and sort of come clean then how could she be forgiven. As far as I am concerned, I'm not sure if I have forgiven her. I think that I have. I am willing to put everything behind us and go on, but I'm still haunted by what she has done.
W was very upset with me tonight because of the incident with my daughter on Tuesday over the pants. She insists that I should have defended her instead of try and difuse the argument and allow my daughter to be angry with mom.
I told her that I was trying to protect both of them and that I really had trouble taking sides. W thinks that I am using my daughter to vent the anger that I have for her. I had a long talk with my daughter tonight and tried to explain to her that she should start trying to forgive mom and start treating her better, but my daughter said that she is still mad at mom.
I don't know if she wants to forget it. She talks about it like she was justified in doing it. That's what gets me. Like it was my fault that she did it. Isn't it important to the healing that she realize that this behavior is wrong regardless of what drove her to do it?
This is a real setback. Any suggestions on how to recover from this one?
