I have two Great Kids ages 8 and 10. My Wife is a good person and I am lucky to be married to her and I look forward to the day that she feels same way about me.
Although SBT and DB does not focus much on the past. I think it would be good to mention some things about our history. The first of which is still hard for me to talk about but I hope will be of help to others.
10 years ago I had an affair...Yuck it is something that I wish that had never happened because of the hurt it has caused. But it is one of the experiances in my life that has forged me into who I am today. I will do a separate page on the affair to give more detail. In brief though I did a terrible job telling my wife about the affair and even a worse job in helping us heal from it. No DB skills at that time
4 years ago wife asked for a divorce and had an EA. Through reading, hard work self change and prayer, the crisis was ended but with hind site I can say not healed.
This September Wife let me know that she needed us to separate. She did not love me and had been pretending to do so for to long. She had decided to buy a house and move out. She wanted to me to date her if I wanted and other people If I should choose to and that she was not looking for another man. She did not want me to try work on us but that I needed to work on me.
If we should divorce she wanted it to be fair for both of us and wanted us to be friends. I held her hand and told her that no matter what we would always be friends and that I would always love her.
This was the best talk that we had had in a long time and as strange as it may sound we became closer because of it.
To be continued....
[ December 17, 2001: Message edited by: Eric Making Plans ]
