Didn't realize until now how you picked your board name. Dude, that SUCKS!! I had to put a halt to the "family bed" years ago. I was the bad guy for awhile, but it was a boundary I had to set for myself. Still happens occassionally, but I can at least tolerate it when it's not a steady diet.
We did spend SOME time not sleeping together when I first moved back home. We both decided it was better if we had separate rooms. She eventually ended up being drawn back into "our" room.
Sounds like your W has some crap from her past she needs to deal with. Try to stay out of her confusion as she's doing this.
I find, at times, that what works for me when things are in a limbo state, is going in and stirring up some crap. Making things worse. Shakes the fence a bit, just have to make sure it's an important issue, I don't do it out of anger, and that I'm willing to deal with the consequences.
Sometimes dynamite works better than either toothpicks or teaspoons. The right tool for the right job. I'm not neccessarily suggesting you do this, it's just some food for thought.
[ December 13, 2001: Message edited by: Jamesjohn ]
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