quote:Originally posted by LonelyAtNight: I thought I was alone on this emotionless roller coaster. You are right on the target when you said about what works or what doesn’t work. It depends on how one sees it. I thought that throughout our 15 years marriage I did lots of things to fulfill my wife’s needs and took for granted that they were working. It turned out that what I did was not good enough to her expectation and I didn’t even have a clue about her unhappiness. However, she did admit that she was hard to please and it was/is in her nature throughout her life.
Another brainstorm I had lately (will have to post this on my thread later). I’m sure it’s been said before, but we tend to give to others – not what they want - but what we want. You thought that you were giving to her throughout your 15 year marriage. You weren’t wrong. You did give. You probably gave a lot. Made a lot of sacrifices. Why didn’t she notice or appreciate them? Because they weren’t always what she wanted.
Your W admitted that she was hard to please. Y’know? I’m not so sure. Perhaps she’s easy to please, but wasn’t getting what she wanted. Maybe she didn’t even know what she really wanted, and therefore couldn’t tell you.
