My brief story: It has been 22 months (Feb 2000) since I accidentally found out that my wife had an affair with a co-worker and confronted her about it and my life has been up and down ever since. She ended her physical affair 4 months (June 2000) after I found out and ended her emotional affair 6 months (Dec 2000) later and quitted her job at that time. It has been a year since they lasted contact (I believe) and throughout these past 22 months my wife has never left me even for a night, but she was cold and distant from me. We couldn’t even have a conversation without arguing with each other. So we ended up writing to each other for a while until last summer when we stopped writing.
To make a long story short, my wife has finally become somewhat warming toward me with a decent conversation and concern at the beginning of this summer. During this time, we spent lots of times together as a family going places, walking in the park, biking on the trail, etc…. But there was no physical between us at all, not even a hug, so I felt less and less about her. About a month ago I felt hopeless and distanced myself from my wife doing something on my own or disappearing for several hours before I returned home.
Then, less than three weeks ago after I detached from her for almost two weeks, she didn’t like it and proposed that we spend more time together or about 30 minutes or so talking to each other every evening. At the same time, she also proposed that I give her a goodnight hug before I go to bed every night. This was the first time that my wife willingly let me hug her since I found out about her affair (22 months ago). As a matter of fact she even hugs me back when I give her the goodnight hug every night for almost three weeks now.
So what do you think? Is this a glimpse of hope at the end of the tunnel? Or am I jumping a gun here? I know I’m not out of the wood yet, but at least I see a tiny light so far.
