Question about feelings

[Jamesjohn]

Hi Kay! No magic words here either, just reassurance that your feelings are normal.

My W & I are pretty solid right now, but there are still times these thoughts and feelings hit me. Especially with everything that was going on this time last year. I am consoled in the fact that my W looks back at it as one of the worst times in her life.

One thing that made/makes it difficult for me was that om was pretty much living in "our" house. A lot of ugly reminders for both W & I. She's been pretty diligent in her efforts to fix things up around the house, remodeling, to make it "our" home again.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that, for me, the feelings come less often, and don't hit quite as hard. It's another patience thing. Keep filling up your times together with good things. Start some new traditions between the two of you. Do some activities that are different from the things you used to do. Keep reassuring him that you're glad to have him home, in both words and actions. Start a NEW life together, and most of the old crap will get pushed out of the way.

Hang in there, my friend. It CAN get better with time.