Quote: it still sucks when she gets out of the shower and won't let me corner her in the hallway... but i've tried to relax a little more.
I have tried this sort of thing with my W on many occasions and am met with much resistance. There have been many evenings when the kids are out of the house, not so late that she is tired, right time of the month, all stars in alignment, or so I think. I say something along the lines of "Let's go to bed and take advantage of our time together. Let's make love, have some fun." She responds with a resounding no without any real explanation.
Should the alpha in me take a different tact such as "Come with me to the bedroom. I am going to do you right now"?
My wife never swoons with excitement for me in any animalistic way. Any alpha approach from me usually finds me shot down and tagged. Remember the LD partner usually determines when the sex will occur. Its about control and dominance. No amount of alpha enticement at this point will matter.
What L4L is talking about (I think) is assertiveness in other areas of the relationship. Determining where her control stops and yours begins. (boundaries L4L?) If I am to understand this, she gains respect and thus an attraction that is not purely animalistic, but rather a humanly female response to what is best described as a sense of strength and confidence from the man which translates to the woman as protection and security. Ideally, over time this type of relationship manifests itself in a mutually satisfying SL.
