Hi Maybetime Glad to hear you are getting some insight out of these posts. i am content that if things don't continue to change (which they are...slowly) i will be fine with leaving this R. it will hurt, badly. but it will hurt a lot more to stay. knowing that things will be 'ok' either way... has given me confidence. I could really relate to this statement. When my H and I separated, I know for myself, I really felt like "wow, I WILL be ok if things don't work out between us". The fear was taken away and that opened me up to really asserting my needs more and also my H felt more confident of asserting his own needs. We CHOOSE to be together now instead of out of...obligation/need/fear whatever. You sound like a smart guy who realizes the same. And you have the advantage of finding out before you even get M and have those kids. Just wanted to say, you are doing great!!!
sorry, no advice on the dream issue
Although it does remind me of that Ben Folds song where he sings: The sun's coming up She's pulled all the blankets over Curled in a ball Like she's hiding from me and That's when I know She's gonna be pissed when she wakes up For terrible things I did to her in her dreams
