Quote: SHE WAS SHOWING PO'D SIGNALS BUT STILL WANTED SEX. See, that was right out of your W's mouth. She did want sex but wasn't able to show it outwardly and it came out all wrong, pissy, avoidant, whatever. Lots of women probably do this. I do. And just like your W, I WANT my H to be assertive enough to read thru the BS and take charge a little. Not retreat, not avoid, not sulk. etc Too many men on here do that and it makes the situation so much worse. Sure the women should not be giving such mixed signals, but that's reality. WE DO!
Gotta jump in here. This absolutely drives me nuts!! Lou, BB's inability to communicate her wants is not your problem. It is hers (IMHO). Even though, according to L4L, it may be the way things are, I don't think you should assume resposibilty for BB's communication problem.
For some reason, it appears to me that many LD W's have little trouble saying no to sex (and mincing no words when doing so.) Yet for some reason have trouble communicating when they do want to ML. That is her problem not yours. Do not own it now.
