maybetime i believe this R is all but over. but if it was a combination of trust issues and my assertiveness changing... which can both be restored... than i still have hope for this R

I hope you keep posting on the forum for several months. Any direction takes time to change and to make it somewhat permanent.

i've been saying other women's names in my sleep. maybe this is it's own thread. she said if it happens once more she is leaving
It is called women-speak. It really means she had her feelings hurt and wonders if you have feelings for someone else. Some women want the man to control everything so they are the happy fairy princess, not doable and not fair.

If you had a dream about the former PM of the UK, Margaret Thatcher or Nancy Reagan, the former First Lady of the USA, would she be angry? I hear they are both single again?

Lou