maybetime said I would have never thought women would want the sensitive guy to disappear and the alpha guy to come out more. it just seems like such a sad solution... Sure i can be alpha. sure it feels natural. but does it feel like love? no. it feels like I'm making myself into the sexual animal that any jerk can be.
Lou’s old version would have gone like this maybe time I thought women valued the sensitive guy and wanted less of the alpha guy to come out...Sure I can be alpha. Sure it feels somewhat natural. But does it feel like love to my W? It feels like I'm forcing myself on to her and being a selfish jerk.. maybetime I think lots of men are in a similar situation as you are in. I just wanted to show you my version of your post to say what you feel / felt is not very unusual.
LFL I too appreciate hearing from you and others that alpha traits are admired among most/some females.
LFL Women certainly do NOT want the sensitive guy to "disappear" as you stated, just show more Alpha traits, mainly confidence and assertiveness. I understand that you are in a vicious circle with your F, the less she wants sex, the less confident you become. But that is just making things worse. LFL I suspect some LDW might have a different take on this, and this makes it more difficult for some H's to be more alpha.
There seems to be a common thought that comes out in TV, newspapers, and magazines articles some W really only want the cuddling and attention. You are comparatively HD and I wish more (one in my case) women had the mindset you have about sex is a good thing.
My question is, what beliefs that you have, would you think many LDW would say are valid if there was honest talk among a group of women. I think some women buy in to the I don't like sex that much from their peers.
I think some LDW might care little about a SL until they did not have one. Then it would be important.
Once they have a SL, then they say sex is a chore or they could do with less sex. Answer that question for maybetime’s benefit, not mine.
I am not trying to rain on your advice to maybetime. I think your advice has lots of merit and it has helped me plow through some of BB’s negativity. I still think the line you posted about “quit reading so much and get between her legs”
LFL Remain confident. Again, it is not your fault. Sure there are things you can do better and you should, but she has to own her piece of the puzzle
Maybetime it's because of her gradual removal of sex that i have become less confident and/or 'needy' That is a common situation and reaction.
LFL Speaking from experience here, the poor SL you have now WILL affect the M. Don't kid yourself into thinking it won't be a big deal or will magically resolve itself. It takes a lot of effort and motivation by BOTH people to work it out.
