That makes a lot of sense. Just becareful not too get too hopeful, because she may have a lot of guilt on that day and decide to keep her distance from you so she wont have to "face" up to it.
But definitely, try to keep that day positive, you have been through a horible trial and you've stuck thru it. You are definitely a strong man and you have God supporting you thru it, and all of us too.
Remember to try not to get too intimate in what you say (unless she starts it) because I believe she needs to move slowly and she also needs to feel that she is making these decisions and not to feel pressured. This is going to take some real time because of how deep the hole she has dug herself into. There are going to be many potholes so keep hanging in there.
Another thing to think about is this.
Depending on what you are doing for your W in the presense of the OM... this OM may or may already be becoming jealous. That may either cause him to step up in the "competition" or pressure her himself (which could be a good thing). The problem with the competition part, is that he may start to do just exactly what your doing. Does that make sense? I'm thinking you just need to be really careful because you don't want him to start competing.. right? I would think that would be a bad thing. just my opinion though.
Good luck on your anni, and have a good day no matter what happens or who you are with.
I am proud of you and happy that you've decided that you want to be with your W.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
