Bravo to you pmd, for handling those difficult situations.
Now, if you don't already have a "visitation" schedule, perhaps you could be pre-emptive and start working on one. Ask for your W's input....ask her for a tentative schedule, or you make a "tentative" one and share it with her....definitely stating that it is a "working" arrangement and you would really appreciate her input. By working out a schedule NOW, it will assist in avoiding issues later. You may also suggest a time of day that is set for you to call so you can talk with your children - then stick to it. This will give your W the knowledge of when to expect your call and avoid any misunderstandings. And one thing - stick to the rule. No matter how much you may want to talk with your W or whatever. don't stray from what the two of you agree upon - she will only view that negatively.
I'm really glad it worked out that she gets to remain in the home with the children. I know you were worried about OM being there and it seems as though that issue were resolved, as well. Now your W doesn't have to worry about stability for her and the kids and you don't have to worry about her running.
Now it's time to focus on you. What are some goals you can come up with? What will help you get back on track? Things can be on an even keel here for awhile, with court out of the way. Time to put your focus on the future.
