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[S.T. _I Made It!]

I'm glad that you've made a decision. I do hope that your able to see the kids more often. Maybe, this might not be DBing, but if you are really concerned about the kids being around OM, then maybe appologizing to her about your actions lately and that you've just been very concerned about the children and want to do what is best for them and it has caused you do act inappropriately with her and maybe you could have the kids when she plans on having him over or something like that.
I feel that this would be okay to do, because your appologizing for your actions, as those actions haven't been DBing anyways, and then you guys are already going to court, and your gonna have to talk about your relationship, because it's going to be very out in the open in court (I would imagine). You need to let her know that she does not have reason to fear you, and it will have to be shown by your actions.

We've all done things out of anger, depression, whatever and have screwed up, but I think it is good to appologize for it . I had to do the same thing, because I kept bringing the children into our sitch and I finally found the DB book and realized what I had been doing and I appologized to H about it and he was appreciative for it.

Well, I wish you luck, I do still think that OM being in your house is totally inacceptable and I think it is a horrible influence and example being set for your children, but what you could do instead is talk to your children and try to give them the security and love they need and let them know that you do not agree with what your W is doing, and you are here for them whenever they need you. Depending on their age, it will be tricky talking about their mother without putting her down, because you don't want them to think badly about their mother, but then you don't want them to think that what she is doing is okay and right.

okay, well, I hope things go well and in your favor at court tomorrow. In regards to her not working, I believe that if she was working while you guys were married, then that's what they will be looking at. In my sitch, I've never worked while we've been married so the attorney told me I'd be able to get alimony.

Keep praying and focus on God and what he can do in your life. If you truely love him, he has a great plan for you, and it might not be with W, and that will be a hard thing to swallow, but I have found peace about my sitch and I know that even if my H doesn't stay with me, God has a great man out their waiting just for me, if I continue to trust in Him.