Quote: This man HAS SLEPT IN THE SAME BED AS MY SON!!!!!!
I'm sure you understand the possible implications by saying this, and ONLY this. Can you elaborate so that we have a clear picture? I am hoping you and your W had a "family bed" situation where your son slept with you and that is what you are talking about.
Anyway, here's the thing; if you are not alleging any kind of truly illegal stuff going on between OM and your son, you DO realize that when W moves in with him, or after you get a D, you HAVE NO SAY in who your W takes your son around or who sleeps at her house. Again, assuming that there is no misconduct going on, this is just a very sad fact of these cases. When the parents split, the child it subject to exposure to all kinds of things you'd rather not have them be a part of.
All that said, you barging back in there to "protect your turf" does not seem to be the most productive thing you can do if the end result you hope for is saving your marriage. IF on the other hand, your main goal is to get OM, likely your W AND your son out of YOUR house, then I think you are on the right track.
Think about this and try to really figure out where you have control in all this, both from a legal standpoint (mainly from a legal stand point actually) and from an emotional standpoint. I don't mean what you WANT to control, I mean what you DO control. When you figure that out, then think about whether your next step is really taking into account the areas you actually can do something about.
I truly understand your anger and pain, and in your shoes, I don't know I would do any different than what you are planning. Like we've been saying, just make sure you are doing this for the right reasons because when the dust settles and things "move on" you will be left without the anger/pain and only the consequences of your actions.
