When I was reading the earlier posts about you figuring out about moving back, I was thinking immediately, if she has a problem, she should be the one to move out, because she's the one who wronged you and doesn't want to be married anymore. IMHO I would definitely do all possible to move back in house and try to get custody of the kids, trying as hard as possible not to be angry or ... I can't think of the word right now, but she's going to be mad at you, probably furious if it goes your way, but you have to stay calm and compassionate and just stand your ground that you are doing what is best for the children.
Some day, hopefully sooner than later, she has got to figure out that what she is doing is harmfull to the kids and that you are doing the right thing.
I would make sure you and the lawyer talk about every possible situation that she could try to pull on you, and make sure you stay one step ahead of her.
With her being a mom, (I'm not sure how much time she devoted to the kids though) I can imagine if you get custody she is going to eventually be miserable, even if she is with the guy she thinks she loves. Maybe this is what she needs to wake her to her senses? I don't know. Of course you can't discount the fact that it could end up being worse, and that is the reason for my saying to be as calm as possible, and still be compassionate, almost as if she has a drug problem or something. Plus, if you guys end up in court and she's the one being irate and your showing yourself as the best father the kids could have, it will just go in your favor. And because your the father, I believe it will be a difficult battle because it seems custody always is givin to the mother, but since she is the one breaking up your marriage, maybe that counts as something?
I will definitely pray for your children and your decisions you have to make. Just remember to let God handle the situation. If we trust in him we can release our anger and hate, and we can be filled with peace. God told us that He uses everything for good for those who love him. Ultimately meaning, sin is what has caused the evil in this world, but for those who love the Lord, He will use these horrible circumstances and turn it to good. He has a plan for us that we cannot understand, but we must trust in him.
I wish you luck in the move home, and the road to getting your children, it will more than likely be long and rough.
Crissy
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
