I finally made it over here! I read through your thread and it sounds like you've come a LONG way. I hope things continue on that path. I really appreciate your advice and support.
Quote: I'd like to ask her how she's doing with her casual contact with him. If she's got pangs, if she sees that contact as a conflict to our improving. If she ever is torn about what her current relationship path and partner should be, and if she would or could like to talk about it. I know this is really an off limits area in general, but in the context of being her friend, I wonder if I open up to the possibility of talking about her feelings here... if I can open up a new level of trust and therefore further break down secrets and increase intimacy by showing her that I am willing to, and can be her must trusted and supportive confidant even in the most difficult of topics... The key is to be totally detached, to be completely unjudgemental and unconditionally supportive.
Wow, you took the thoughts right out of my head, I mean the exact thoughts. Although I know I'm not ready to do this yet, I think at some point I will be and when I am I probably will.
Your counselor sounds great, ours just tried to do something like yours but H wanted NOTHING to do with it. So, I don't know where to go with that.
I hope things are going well for you. I'm always checking in here now to see if you've checked in.
