Thanks, Andy. Grounding is always good. You're probably right, it wouldn't do much good, but I'm gonna store it away in the back of my mind anyway. Just not act on it right now.
My sitch has run rampant with things that work that have generally run against the "common wisdom". I suppose it comes from one knowing his own situation best, and having to take that leap of faith from time to time. She actually finally agreed to stop the divorce proceedings after a horrendous fight where I brought up the OM and told her I wouldn't tolerate her being with him any more. Another time (later), she simply broke down one day sobbing on the kitchen floor. I went over to her, wrapped her up in my arms and told her how much I felt for her, how much I knew she must be hurting from her decision to leave him, how hard it must all be. I know this hit home in a big way, because she brought it up in C, saying how much it meant to her.
So, though this latest idea might be dumb, the essense of its empathetic nature could be powerful. Maybe I just need to keep track of that desire to empathize and "act as if...", instead of overtly making the statements...
Thanks, my friend. Your perspective it always valued.
