Yes, the C sessions are something I look forward to a bit too much, I think, because I still notice the I regard them as holding the solution to our problems. W once called it "giving the C too much power".
I've noticed that I wait for momentous things to happen during C, for validation from C. That, or course doesn't happen. Usually I get a bit too needy, or at least need to say things I haven't said, and I feel I'm misunderstood, and then the session becomes about clarifying what I meant. Meanwhile, W can withdraw into what ever shell she has built and none of her issues come out. When I can "withdraw", usually things can come out of her, but often quite "coded"... It's a tedious process, but it works.
I've got to notice that I need to just shut up for a bit, and answer questions, and not editorialize. Then I must listen to more of what W is saying, and more of C's suggestions. I must avoid the urge to get my issues stated and my questions answered, because this tends to mire the session in me alone.
I get terribly needy at times, and lately I've been feeling that way a lot, though I don't think I present it to most of the world anywhere near to the degree I feel it.
