"Personally, I don’t feel like a doormat unless W starts presuming too much. By “too much”, I mean that she has expectations of me which I have no right to expect from her."
Thanks, Andy... This is again good perspective. I have been guilty in the past of resenting her for leaving me as the designated babysitter when she would just leave for the evening... She'd sometimes go for days without seeing daughter, even tho she'd eventually come home very late and leave very early.
But those times have changed. It's another baby step I sometimes over look. She doesn't stay away nearly so long, and usually she lets me know where she'll be. I either know exactly where she is or have a pretty good idea. She also almost always asks if it's ok if she goes out when in the past, she just stated it.
Sometimes I just get down, and get impatient. Now it's July, I can move on and reflect upon how I've made it this far. Good for me.
Thursday is our first real session with our new C. It's the 4th session, but the first 3 were the priliminaries of "meet both of us, then meet each indivudually". Now, we get to the work. This is one of those situations where I have to be very careful of how I set my expectations... I have to take it for exactly what it is, and not allow myself to see a vast change based on one session.
