Out of curiosity...why do you feel your W is "needy" for seeking your validation? If that's a love language of hers (WOA) then I don't view that as needy....but it sounds Iand correct me if I'm wrong) that you look down on her for this. Perhaps that's not the right way to say it, but at the minimum it sounds like you may view that as a weakness.
I don't know if you are like this, but my H in the past would often withhold what I was asking for, just because I asked for it. I rarelyreceived WOA from him. He'd brag about me when I wasn't around...our friends/family all knew how wonderful he thought I was....but "I" never heard those words...and so never felt loved or validated.
