As you posted on my thread, we seem to be in the same place (R-wise).
Personally, I don’t feel like a doormat unless W starts presuming too much. By “too much”, I mean that she has expectations of me which I have no right to expect from her.
For example, she made plans to ride (motorcycle) to in-laws with MF and her cousin. The plan included me as the person who would drive our van full of kids and MF’s W. Did she give me the courtesy of asking?
Nope!
But I can’t go back and say no now. It would only be vindictive.
This is one of the things I’d like to tell her about. Problem is, no matter how I word it, she would only hear, “Blah blah blah… You’re a bitch… blah blah blah”
As to you, would it hurt for you to ask more questions? You could approach it as being interested in her. Alternatively, you could phrase it in terms of common courtesy. I’d never dare do the latter, as I’ve just said, but you be the judge of whether or not it’s appropriate for you.
