I think your missing the point Well, LFL I do have a lot of resentments in my head but what good is it if I let them out in a crude reptilian brain functioning, fashion.
So when BB told me I am a lousy H and she does not have to worry about me leaving her because no one would want me, I should not feel hurt or let her statement not damage our long-term relationship?
Or when she said I was a F-up and out to get her because I did not set-up the coffee pot before I went to bed, I should consider BB still to be a nice person, but one that has flaws.
I wasn't saying to let the sh!t fly and that makes you nice, I'm saying to be "nice" you would have your nice actions match your nice thoughts and vice versa. For instance, Lou wanting to set up BB's coffee pot because he loves her and likes to do nice things for her, not because he doesn't want her to call him a big F-Up or whatever. That's doing something our of fear and conflict avoidance, not out of niceness. I think a lot of people do things like that.
I was just a little ramped up listening to some of Chroms iTune suggestions and some of his posts. I hope you are in a teasable mood today.
I'm always teasable, never a tease.
Interesting info about female sexuality. Sometimes I'm aggressive but more often than not, I'm more receptive female sexuality. Unfortunately, so is my H.
