RE LFL it really being nice to say or do one thing but think a complete other, have all sorts of resentment in your head,
Well, LFL I do have a lot of resentments in my head but what good is it if I let them out in a crude reptilian brain functioning, fashion.

I want to be honest but in a civilised manner.

If that's the case, than I'm not a nice person.
So when BB told me I am a lousy H and she does not have to worry about me leaving her because no one would want me, I should not feel hurt or let her statement not damage our long-term relationship?

Or when she said I was a F-up and out to get her because I did not set-up the coffee pot before I went to bed, I should consider BB still to be a nice person, but one that has flaws.

Those are some of the type things I try to avoid. The damaging outbursts, even-though some actually help the R in some time frame.

I do see sugar coating things just prolongs the problems.

Say, need your hair pulled soon? No forget it. I was just a little ramped up listening to some of Chroms iTune suggestions and some of his posts. I hope you are in a teasable mood today.

About you wanting a more aggressive H. I was listening to a web video and talked two forms of female sexuality.

Assertive female sexuality=the woman is motivated to approach her partner sexually. It's male hormone based.

Receptive female sexuality=the female is in the mood or will be in the mood if her partner is assertive sexuality. This is female hormonally based.

According to this assumption assertive and/or receptive sexuality. I can see why you and Mojo (and other women) want the male to be the seeker of sex most of the time.

( guys, it's one persons idea of a model that might explain some women's actions or lack of actions. Now lets get the no desire thing fixed)

Lou