The pilot/colonel who was much older was devoted to me, for sure. And he was somewhat emotionally available, although he prided himself on being "self-sufficient," and felt that a person's ultimate goal should be to get to the point where you do not need anyone.
Also: he was married, which is, of course, the epitome of unavailability. He and his W were separated, lived apart in separate residences in neighboring communities for ~10 or so years, and never saw each other. At their ages (he was 67, I was 39 when we broke up), to split their funds would have meant extremely reduced circumstances for both of them.
Eventually he developed cancer and at that point moved back in with his wife and lived with her until he died two years after my husband.
Oddly, p/c's wife has the same first name and middle initial as mine. I assume she's still alive.
