You are so right, cobra. After reading over what I wrote, my thought was, "No wonder he isn't interested in intimacy. He is still fighting for his survival."
Lou, the issue of whether he owes child support is not in question. He knows he owes it. If he had been in open communication with his ex over the past couple of years about all this health and financial setbacks instead of funneling the info through the girls, it might have made a difference. OTOH from what I've heard about her, it might not have. She's as completely self-absorbed as many of the spouses that are discussed on this board... Z-Bube's W comes to mind, and hairdog's... and even BB. She is the one who walked out on him, and yet she feels that she is the wronged one. (I can often understand why she walked out on him-- I've thought of it many times, although I suspect our reasons would be slightly different.)
