Re lil. If we "needed" to have all of these things from our parents, then I am WAY screwed...
Lil, lots of people did not get much from their parents, but learned to live a good life. It's doable. Yes I have FOO issues but it's me that needs changing. I can't do anything to change yesterday.
Nice tie-in ( Safety: The Rosetta Stone of Psychological Life) to the "Come to Your Senses" book.
My copy of "Come to Your Senses" just arrived. When I finish the kitchen tile work, I will start reading the book. Looks like Saturday or Sunday for now.