Is this how it begins?

[cat03]

sounds normal too me, and BTW, dont' expect him to fulfill many of your needs right now, as it is he is having issues with his own needs, still on selfish mode. My H is nice w/me now, we ML and he helps around, but still hasnt' said ILY nor is very affectionate nor does many caring acts. So I have to put a positive light and remember the few good things he does do around the house.

He might be "testing" if your effords are sincere and might be pushing your buttons. Again, a good MC should help. Sounds like your H is still fighting with his MLC, it is a long road, and some days are better than others.