Is this how it begins?

[Jamesjohn]

He is looking at all the positives in our R, instead of the negatives.

Wow, this is great! What are some of these positives that he's seeing, and what can you do to help reinforce these?

I assume I shouldn't bring up R talks?

Yup, probably not yet. At this point, I'd just follow his lead on this. There will "probably" be some ups and downs when the R talks do occur, so it might be good to do what you can to re-build a good, solid foundation to fall back on.

Time to work on, and take care of, you too! As most of the people here in piecing will attest to, this transition period can be tough. It's difficult to unwind, relax, and enjoy this part at times. It's easy to still be a bit jumpy. DO have some fun together!