quote:Originally posted by inmyplace: Could they worry that if they let go of others in their lives that we may not really want them?
Hmmm. Interesting, as is the opposite... Maybe the impass they are struggling with resolving is partly what you say, the other side of the coin being that they are finally beginning to consider if the others in their in their lives will be as supportive and invigorating if they let go of us?
On of my W's formerly cute quotes was "I want it ALL". After the "bomb" is was more likely simply pathetic. Now it's becoming humorous again because she sees the irony of it. But I do see signs of her contemplating whether she will be as eagerly accepted by them after she ends it with me as she is while she merely threatens to end it with me... I see evidence of this by her backing way off from the SSW (she actually avoids them now). I see it particularly in a recent statement in Therapy that she's been advised by her friends to do everything she can to work out the marriage. That leads me to believe that she may think if she doesn't follow that advice, those friends will loose some respect for her.
Interestingly, I asked who those friends were, and she refused to answer. She said I would probably read into the list that any who weren't on it were against me and hold it against me. It still makes me wonder who all knows about our problems....
Still, I see it all as positive, it all shows that at least she's thinking, no longer just rushing headlong, pell mell into the abyss.
