Well, Kent, no, not really any discussion. Just seems to be complying with my wishes. She may just have gone "underground" with OM again, but she's not out till all hours, and she's at least going through the motions of letting me know who she's with and where she's going. She's still out a lot (playing tennis), but is almost always home shortly after tennis club closes.
I've been leaving a lot alone. I've discovered the value of No OR, and I'm getting a feel for the required balance of that and the necessary OR in my R. I'm feeling it's time to begin to say it's time we begin to work on intimacy. I plan to be careful to acknowledge a real distinction between physical and emotional intimacy to not exert unwanted pressure. I believe emotional intimacy may actually be the hardest, because I am now wondering if she's ever been completely emotionally intimate. Physical intimacy is different, and can be "just the act", but emotional is hard. Being emotionally naked can be frightening.
