Z, I hear a couple of things in your post that I don't see helping. 1. Your W does not trust you. It probably has alot to do with the fact that she is sneaking around, but she has already justified that. I'd give up all forms of snooping. As you said, you know when she has been with the OM.
2.I get the distinct impression that you two are not having much fun togather. Kinda hard to put a positive spin on stuff with no fun. What can ya do about that.
3. ********************************************* I pointed out how I've asked her to simply tell me when she'll be home and where she's going when she goes out, but she still resists. ************************************************ Time to stop asking. As a matter of fact, try to be gone when she comes home. Be out doing your own thing. Try this one for a 180.
4. I think you should contact the OM. I prefer the tele as it restricts you from ripping his head off and shoving it up his ###. Keep in mind that this may piss your W off. Like I said before, making this decision has alot to do with your goals, self respect and disrespect from others. If W is not seeing OM, It does not make sense to pursue this. If she is, ya gotta decide wether to confront, or just send her to him.
5. Stop acting like her daddy! I did this with M wife and I can tell you are doing the same thing. Stop trying to be her moral light. She will only resent you for it.
6. I told you a while back that if your W is still toying with the OM, you should send her to him. That is what I would do. Is that what you would do? You need to decide. We are all different and thus, make different choices.
So tell us about how your W has been working on the R. What have been her efforts. Then tell us what you have been doing. Tell us about your PMA and the goals you have established to improve yourself. Tell us what you are currently working on. Tell us what has been different lately.
