Z, Sorry W is still at it. I'm a big one for confronting the affair, lies, bullsh##, etc. You gotta go with your gut on this one. You will get a hundred different opinions. Me, I would suggest she go live with OM so the rest of the family can start to recover. Send her off with your love.
As long as she is playing the fence sitter with you on one side and OM on the other, this kinda stuff will continue.
Good luck on this one. I remember the feelings well.
