I just read a lot of your stuff, and there seems to be no follow-up to your Retrouvaille weekend. Seems like it worked well!!
I've often thought of Retrouvaille, but not for a while... Arnold once suggested to me that I also check out John Gottman's clinic. But, the presence of an active PA and other things made me feel that she would have no interest. But now, in the current climate, it might work. The biggest problem seems to be that she is still struggling with issues like "I love you but I'm not IN love with you", and the allure of the "romance" and "excitement" she found in the affair with the OM and her "single" lifestyle with all her new divorced and divorcing friends.
How did you approach your H with the idea? I'm a little apprehensive about approaching it. It was a big step just to get into Couples therapy. I don't want to overwhelm her. I've also felt a bit pressured by her "deadline". (tho that was breached yesterday when we made our next couples therapy appointment for January 17th ) I like the "chicken" approach of leaving a brochure laying about, but I can't seem to find one. Maybe I could print out things from the website...
Anyway, how did it go? What's it really like? How is the follow-up? Any thoughts or sharing of experience would help...
) I like the "chicken" approach of leaving a brochure laying about, but I can't seem to find one. Maybe I could print out things from the website...
