Yes there is a fine line between communicating and pushyness(pursuit). Your W is the judge.
Me, I always got anxious and depressed befor my personal C sessions. It took me a while to figure out why. This kind of anxiety is all based in fear. Fear that our lives are about to drastically change and we are not in control of that change.
Eventually we figure out the truth. We are not in control of our WAS's choice for a change and and the resulting impact on our children and our economic condition. However, we are in control of how we choose to react to this situation. This insight brought me great peace. I finally realized and accepted that my kids and I would be OK regardless of the outcome of our M.
I have no doubt that you are a wonderful person. After all, your search to save your M brought you here. Remember that even if you don't manage to salvage the M. The real issue is wether you salvage yourself.
