HP.

Ditto.
I saw incongruence in the subject line alone, and now more in the posts. But Im the trusting sort , and becuause he is so obviously emotionally overwrought by the loss of his wife, giving him the benefit of the doubt.

Photoguy. Keep posting bud.

I don't see where getting nasty is going to help anyone

actually I think 'getting nasty' would help you a great deal with your sitch.