Okay, that is a difference, but really it is quite minor if you consider the question that we HD folks frequently ask ourselves which is "Why do I want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex with me?". I think there almost has to be some essential low self-esteem involved in either case.
Hmmm. I am not sure I agree with this if I understand it correctly. When my W was making the ultimate scarifice to have sex with me when I desired, wheteher she was in the mood or not, that did not deter my "turned on ness" for her. In fact I was at the point where we may have turned a corner until after a few months it turned back into "crap sex".
The factor for me, HDM, is the fact of my constant desire and attractiveness to my wife's physical beauty and personality (although it is a different one with me most of the time).
Maybe a part of the desire stems from the fact that she is reluctant and it is a challenge for me. Agreed the process of this has dented my self-esteem, but I am not sure that contributes to my HD nature. I am most certain her low self-esteem in some of her areas and my different viewpoint about her lead to some of her LD feeling. I dunno. Just my 2 cents.
F4W
Through honest giving of my love I will recieve 10 fold in return.
Just because a person does not love you in the way you want, does not mean they do not love you!
