Quote: It's that he wants ONLY what he cannot have, and DOES NOT WANT the sex that's readily available from a willing partner.
Well, just to be argumentative , this part is true for most HD on this BB too. We could all easily find willing sexual partners but we stay with a partner who is an unwilling (to whatever extent) sexual partner for a variety of lame to excellent reasons. I mean, you personally LP, could end your current relationship tomorrow morning, go on AdultFriendFinder tomorrow afternoon and be having sex with a willing partner by tomorrow night. So what's stopping you? My theory is that if you make a list of all the reasons why you don't, that list would be the synthesis of all the ways in which you are LD yourself or at least a list of all the things for which you are more HD than sex. Anyone for whom sex was truly one of the top things they valued in life would never find themselves on this BB.
Quote: It is the fact that the object of desire is unavailable that is the turn-on.
Okay, that is a difference, but really it is quite minor if you consider the question that we HD folks frequently ask ourselves which is "Why do I want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex with me?". I think there almost has to be some essential low self-esteem involved in either case.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
, this part is true for most HD on this BB too. We could all easily find willing sexual partners but we stay with a partner who is an unwilling (to whatever extent) sexual partner for a variety of lame to excellent reasons. I mean, you personally LP, could end your current relationship tomorrow morning, go on AdultFriendFinder tomorrow afternoon and be having sex with a willing partner by tomorrow night. So what's stopping you? My theory is that if you make a list of all the reasons why you don't, that list would be the synthesis of all the ways in which you are LD yourself or at least a list of all the things for which you are more HD than sex. Anyone for whom sex was truly one of the top things they valued in life would never find themselves on this BB.
