Z, I said ask the question, not try to drag an answer from her. Wait and see what W offers in the near future with respect to an answer. Do not ask again. Her silence is answer enough for now.
You come off as a very impatient person. This may be a good 180 for you to start developing an implementation plan for. You gotta get all pressure off W with respect to OR. You need to become happy, funny and fun loving again. I'm speaking from W's viewpoint.
My backing off my W was the major turning point in our R. I decided that it was more important for her to find happiness than for OR to survive. I knew that there was no OR if she could not find happiness. I found myself urging her to figure this out. If she needed to try to find this in bars till the wee morning hours, I sent her with my blessing. Believe me, they notice when you become genuine. Your eyes are a window to your heart that they can read through. We all can.
You are not hanging out in the wrong forum. Your heart has told you this. Don't just read what we are trying to tell you. Resist your natural urges to pursue and pressure and start walking the talk. Give control of the OR to W.
Also, make a point of doing something special this weekend. For you and her. What would she take notice to? Maybe it is as simple as smiling a real smile and demonstrating to her that she is free to choose. No words, actions!
Have you considered sending her on a mini vacation alone?
