Z, My H said back in September when we started counseling all of the mean things. then with the counselor we set up a date which was Nov 1st. At that time we needed to decide whether we want to work on the marriage. I HATED IT. I was positive come Nov 1st H will say OK that's it I have tried. I did my best. Tried not to backslide but I did. About once a week. I think once since August I went for about 2 weeks. Even before Nov 1st H said he wants to work on the marriage. It took us two sessions to convince the counselor that is what both of us want to do. Maybe her fault maybe our fault. But we are now working on the marriage. Talking about how to fix the problems. We still don't know which way this will turn out. But I was told I had 6 weeks and the decision will be made. Just forget about the time frame which really doesn't mean anything. Just work on yourself. That is the best way to work on your marriage.
