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Her way of working on the marriage right now could be just going to the counseling. I think that is were my H is at. At times a little more but mostly counseling. I think during these confusing times it is that much more important to work on ourselves again. To show the spouse that we want to be different for the sake of our own happiness.
I would say don't bring up the goals yet. It may be a little too soon. As hard as it is sometimes let the counselor to their thing. Sometimes I wonder whose side my counselor is on but hanging in there is part of the game.
If you push it you may end up pushing her away, not intentionally of course. My H said once which so goes along everything that we see on this BB
"I don't want to be pushed back, I want to be pulled" so show her the wonderful you and stop pushing.

I hope this helps. My H was in the 'not sure about working on the marriage for about 10 weeks' we finally are all on the same page Counselog, my H and myself. It seemed for a while there everytime H made progress or it so seemed to me the counselor was questioning him. I WAS READY TO GIVE HER A PIECE OF MY MIND. But she came through last week. So now we are TRULY all 'working on the marriage' Hopefully not too much about my relationship. But it seems a little similar.
Remeber baby steps.. well first they slide on their back SLOWLY, then they sort of turn but go back on laying on their back. Then they turn on their belly, but go back to laying on their back again, then they start crawling but at times they are not sure about it so they may go back to laying..but once they start walking and they are sure of it, those baby steps becomes more consistant and there is no more going back to laying around. Think about it. I have an infant so I am using baby logic.