It is so nice to see a happy ending. You are a strong woman. Question: my H had an EA with an individual he has never seen in person. They have not talked since last of September now I gave ultimatum he agreed.. so on. Sometimes I believe they have not talked sometimes I don't, I am still working on that. I our next counseling session I am suppose to tell my husband what I need to have from him when it comes to that EA for me to put it aside behind us while we are working on the marriage. I feel it is the hardest thing to do. Is there anything in particular that helped you? Did it help you seeing the letter the OW wrote to your H? The letters he wrote to her? Did you ever ask 'WHY' even though we always sort of have the idea of why.. Trying to figure this out before next week.