I just started reading your thread and don't really know your whole story. What caught my eye, actually, was your last post about getting anxious, hurt, and angry when your H can't meet your needs right now. That's where I am at this point in time. I like what you said about being at your best when you meet your own needs. That's what I need to do, too -- Chill out and not take everything so personally.
My H is having his own struggles right now. How can I expect him to meet my needs when he doesn't even like himself right now? I've asked him if he needs space. He says no. I don't think he really knows what he needs right now. He thought he knew what his needs were 2 years ago and that I wasn't meeting them. In walked the OW and apparently was able to meet those needs. Now he's such a mess with guilt and shame that he doesn't have a clue what his needs are anymore!! Go figure.
Please keep posting. Your sitch is very interesting.
